I THOUGHT THIS WAS KIDDING SOGMLASG
15/05/13 @ 09:44pm
■ eating disorders
■ you are beautiful
■ female empowerment
■ facebook drama
■ high school
■ people can be dumb
■ black is beautiful
So my school, on facebook, has an anonymous compliments page. The other day someone posted this compliment:
To all the girls at [my high school]:
It’s an undeniable truth that we’re not all considered equally ‘beautiful,’ at least according to society’s standards. I’m not writing this to tell you all that you’re all beautiful, because there are just going to be some people who fit more of the ideal of the ‘perfect body/face/etc.’. But your worth is not and has never been defined by your outward beauty. You are all valuable, and all carry immeasurable worth simply by existing. Take pride in your strengths and carry yourself with confidence. Don’t let outward appearances dictate how you view yourself. Focus on the beauty that exudes from within, and remember that you are always loved and always valued.
A lot of people “liked” it. There were some jokes in the comments, a banter in which I participated. But then this comment was posted, also anonymous:
not a compliment but a response to what’s been going on with the “you are beautiful” thing
most of these are directed at girls. I don’t think I ‘ve seen a single post complimenting a guy on his physical appearance. Why only women? it it because people think we live off their approval? I bet most of the compliments directed at someone’s physical appearance are from women (for me at least, they are)
I wonder how it would feel for them to compliment a guy on his new haircut or cute shoes. I don’t want to be treated any different than my male counterparts, and this includes compliments about physical appearance. Unless you would say it to a guy, I don’t want to hear it.
Are you serious, anon? Are you seriously serious? I got kind of pissed. My response:
You don’t want to hear it? You asked why only women. Why only women? I have some answers for you.
Why only women? Why not guys? Because a guy’s physical appearance is not held to be an indicator of his worth even half as much as it is for females. Because men’s bodies are not commodified and sexualized and made into public discourse in the way that women’s are. Because this is still a profoundly unequal society that both measures a girl’s worth by her looks and calls her shallow for caring about them. Because girls in the United States are 7 times more likely to get an eating disorder than boys are. Because women’s bodies are made into public property - to be raped, hated, commented upon online or in the street - to such an extent that I don’t think most men can even imagine what it is like to be female. Because messages like this are meant to combat a society’s worth of inflicted and internalized pain.
That’s why. I do not wish to diminish the similar struggles undergone by men, as I know men do get eating disorders, they do worry about their looks - but as a phenomena pressure on men in no way compares to the pressure put on women in this society. Remember “Black is Beautiful”? That was a campaign to disassociate blackness from the “lesser” status imposed upon it by centuries of oppression and prejudice. It was empowering. Were people wrong to go around saying “Black is beautiful” just because they did not also say “white is beautiful”? Is it wrong to affirm the inherent worth of girls - something that still does not cease to be attacked - simply because you are focusing on girls, and only girls? Does it threaten the male population to attempt to empower the female one?
Racism and sexism are by no means the same, nor are they manifested in the same way. But both racism and sexism have had long histories in this country; they have privileged some and put down others. I did not submit the above post; I don’t know who did. But while I don’t think a message like this will fix all the problems surrounding females in this country, I appreciate the effort, and the sentiment behind it. There are historical and societal contexts to messages like these. Please think about that before deciding that “you don’t want to hear it.”
The fact that (apparently) a girl posted this made the comment a little more complicated for me. But still: ignoring sexism, like ignoring racism, does not make it go away.
1. White terrorists are called “gunmen.” What does that even mean? A person with a gun? Wouldn’t that be, like, everyone in the US? Other terrorists are called, like, “terrorists.”
2. White terrorists are “troubled loners.” Other terrorists are always suspected of being part of a global plot, even when they are obviously troubled loners.
3. Doing a study on the danger of white terrorists at the Department of Homeland Security will get you sidelined by angry white Congressmen. Doing studies on other kinds of terrorists is a guaranteed promotion.
4. The family of a white terrorist is interviewed, weeping as they wonder where he went wrong. The families of other terrorists are almost never interviewed.
5. White terrorists are part of a “fringe.” Other terrorists are apparently mainstream.
6. White terrorists are random events, like tornadoes. Other terrorists are long-running conspiracies.
7. White terrorists are never called “white.” But other terrorists are given ethnic affiliations.
8. Nobody thinks white terrorists are typical of white people. But other terrorists are considered paragons of their societies.
9. White terrorists are alcoholics, addicts or mentally ill. Other terrorists are apparently clean-living and perfectly sane.
10. There is nothing you can do about white terrorists. Gun control won’t stop them. No policy you could make, no government program, could possibly have an impact on them. But hundreds of billions of dollars must be spent on police and on the Department of Defense, and on TSA, which must virtually strip search 60 million people a year, to deal with other terrorists."
Juan Cole, 08/09/2012
Juan Cole actually wrote this 4 days after a white terrorist, yes, terrorist, murdered 6 and injured 4 people at a Sikh gurdwara in Wisconsin. The terrorist who committed said crime spoke of an impending “racial holy war” beforehand and was a member of white supremacist/neo-Nazi hate groups.
Obviously white people deserve ALL THE SYMPATHIES.
09/05/13 @ 09:52pm
■ digital art
■ white hair
■ luna's art
■ this is a lot of tags
■ why i wonder
■ i drew a thing
■ artists on tumblr
Just watched the first episode of BBC Sherlock —
AHHHH I love it why do i never watch tv what is wrong with me
omg benedict cumberbatch